Sunday, May 8, 2011

Happy Mother's Day

I'm a mother.

And yes...

there are times I actually claim my real kids...

and not those that belong to someone else and are much better behaved.

A couple of weeks ago...

it would have been this guy...

This is the guy that when he was younger...

after a couple of weeks into a new school year...

I would stop by his class just to see how he was doing.

I remember his kindergarten teacher saying...

"Oh, he's doing great!  He listens and participates...gets along with everyone".

I looked at her and said...

"Hi!
I'm actually Robert's Mom?"

To which she looked at me strangely and replied...

"I know".

And I then said...

"Oh!  Well...
it's great that he's doing so well but I've never met that kid".

But a couple of weeks ago...

my heart swelled with pride.

My grandmother and her husband had come to my Mom's for Easter...

they're both in their 80's...

and he walks with a cane.

I didn't know this until a couple of days later when talking to my Mom and she told me how impressed they both were my children...

how they couldn't stop bragging on them...

but especially how Robert was in front of him in the food line (buffet style...serve yourself) and Robert turned to him and asked if he would like a certain dish and then proceeded to spoon it for him onto his plate...

and continued doing so until they had reached the end.

I didn't know my 8 year old knew to do that.

Maybe it's because of having Hunter... 

and all her special needs...

for a sister.

Maybe it's because he's watched and learned when I've held the door for people as we enter a building...

or offered assistance to an elderly person in the grocery.

I don't know...

but in spite of my lacking skills in being a mother...

he has learned to offer assistance to those who may need it.

Maybe...

just maybe...

in all the mistakes I make every day being a mother...

sometimes I've managed to do something right...

and he makes me proud.


And then...

there's this guy...

Dinky.

We had an interesting conversation the other day about mothers...

specifically stay at home Mom's...

sit down because you have no idea where this one ends...


While sitting at a red light on our way to school watching the traffic...

D:  Why those people go that way?
M:  Maybe they live that way...
      or work that way?
D:  They work that way?
M:  Maybe...
D:  You not work.
M:  Excuse me!  I work every day.
      I'm working right now...
D:  No you not!  You taking me to school!
M:  Exactly!  That's part of my job.
      The job that I get no pay for doing...
      and apparently no respect!
D:  Nanny work when she was your mother?
M:  She's still my mother...
      and yes.
      She worked.
      But she worked at a job where she got a paycheck.
D:  She work at the school?
M:  No...
      she worked at a hospital.
D:  Was she a nurse?
M:  No. She was a technologist.
D:  Is tech-no-lo-gist French...
      for nurse?
M: (giggle) No...
      it's not French.
(pause)
D:  Oh...
      it Japanese.


And that's typical of how a conversation goes with Dinky.

I'm proud of him too.

He is sunshine on the gloomiest of days...

and my heart swells with every smile...

every kiss.

And before you think I'm forgetting my girls...

I am so incredibly proud of both of them...

I can't even begin to express it because you would stop reading.

Hunter's strength...her sweet nature...her giggle that is a sound straight from the angels.

And Haley...her intelligence...her loyalty...her talents.

I love my kiddos more than life...

they are my breath.


And to all of us stay at home Moms who sometimes get discouraged when we feel taken for granted...

or looked down upon by friends who have careers outside of the home...

or the checkbook is screaming for us to get a job...

maybe we do get paid.

It's the smiles, hugs, giggles and kisses of our children.

And though the grocery will never accept them as a form of payment...

they are moments that will last a lifetime longer than any money ever earned...

but yet that which money earned could never buy back.


To all Mothers, Grandmothers everywhere...

I wish for you a day filled with love, smiles, hugs and kisses...

Happy Mother's Day.



The Details:
All Supplies PTI unless noted
Cardstock: Hawaiian Shores, True Black
Stamps: YOF: Roses, misc.
Ink: Momento
Ribbon and pearls: misc.

Edited 9:40 am 5/8/11
My Mom just called and I felt it was important to remind us that somewhere there is a mother crying.  
That somewhere...a mother is being told she will never hear her child's laugh...
see their smile... 
or feel the strength of their hugs again.
Today that somewhere is here...
in my town.
A highway patrolman was killed yesterday afternoon while escorting The Blue Angels to an airshow in another town.
I've known this highway patrolman for as long as I can remember.
He was the cousin of my best friend Sonya growing up...
his sister and I used to sneak Sonya to rock concerts together...
another cousin was very good friends with my sister...
he and my brother were friends...
went to school together all the way through high school graduation.
His dad is the former sheriff here...
and for just a bit a few years ago...
I thought we would even be related when he was dating a cousin of mine.
It's a small town.
And today his mother cries.
Mother's Day will never hold the same meaning for her again.
I hope you'll take a moment to remember the mothers who have lost a child...
in service...
in an accident...
by illness...
and say a prayer from them.

12 comments :

  1. "Japanese"--oh, how funny! Your children are amazing! Thanks so much for sharing and have a wonderful Mother's Day!!

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  2. I shouldn't have to tear up on Mother's Day, your post did that to me though! Very sweet and touching, especially the last part from your Mom. Your card was also really nice. CAS. See, you can do that style. Happy Mother's Day to a great Mom and friend.

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  3. that was beautiful! happy mother's day to you.

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  4. Beautiful post Renee! I love your little ones convo about working moms! I think what you do is amazing....I tried it for 9 months and went stir crazy. I want to wish you a very wonderful Mother' Day! Beautiful card too!

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  5. Renee how I LOVE to visit your blog.. it always makes me SMILE!! and today cry... I am so SORRY to read that.. I will keep your friends mom and his whole family, friends to in my prayers.
    Hope your having a WONDERFUL Moms Day!

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  6. They say you learn something new everyday...Japenese, huh? LOL!! That was funny!

    Your card is beautiful! The blue on blue is great! I love that you kept the card simple too!

    I'm sorry about your friend! It makes you holder your kids tighter and longer for sure!

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  7. Happy Mother's Day to a beautiful Mama! Your post is wonderful. I love being a SAHM! It's the best job ever and I wouldn't want anyone else to do this job for me ~~ not one little part of it:)

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  8. Oh Renee, what a sweet and sad post today. Hope you enjoyed your day! My hubs is a SAHD and that's real hard for many people to accept - I have mad props for all the SAHMs!!

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  9. I finally got to read this, I like to "savor" your posts, not just rush through them ;) Being a mom has been the hardest, yet most rewarding thing I've ever done. It's a thousand jobs all rolled into one, and like you said, the "salary" is paid in a hundred small, yet priceless ways :) Happy belated Mother's Day, sweet Renee!

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  10. What a wonderful post, and I'm so sorry that you had to edit it. We are all so blessed with our children.

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  11. What a sweet post. Really makes me stop and take a breath and be thankful that I am a mom, frustrations and all. Hope your day was wonderful and thanks for making me smile.

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